Unfortunately it doesn’t go without saying these days: marriage should precede fatherhood. Marriage has had it rough of late. One of the bedrocks of western civilization tossed aside in less than a hundred years. And I include the inclination to divorce and remarry in that decline. “Gay” marriage is only the latest adding of insult to injury. Marriage has been relegated to the status of a commodity, a thing to be altered at will to fit our wants.
In the beginning it was not this way:
Genesis 2, about the second half of the chapter: Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the LORD God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
A man has X and Y chromosomes and a woman has two X chromosomes. Coincidence? I think not.
I digress. Marriage is ordained by GOD Himself. Later on in scripture, after the fall, rules on marriage are given. Divorce is granted. But, the Lord Jesus said, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
Two things here: “hardness of heart” and “sexual immorality”. Neither of these put us in a good light.
The prophet Hosea was specifically told to marry a prostitute. And she was not a Julia Roberts from “Pretty Woman” who really wanted marriage. She ran off on Hosea more than once. It was the imagery for how GOD views our unfaithfulness to Him. Divorce is never a positive thing. There is no compulsion to divorce if a spouse commits an act of sexual immorality. It’s an out if need be (i.e. Your husband is a child molester).
And hardness of heart is to be far from the Love of GOD. A spiritual diagnosis of “unhealthy.”
For those not swayed by scripture there’s this, it’s a long article but worth the time; a non-scripture based argument for marriage being between a husband and wife only: here
Marriage is triune like GOD. Man, woman and GOD. Or better: GOD, and a man and a woman. Everything else is a sham, a cheap imitation of a GOD ordained structure. And like everything else outside of GOD, there’s just misery: self centered idolatry.
It is on the family that all other human interactions are built. Everything else depends on it. It is the nesting place of the young and the weak. It is where they learn and grow and see the world. Distorting that initial piece will ultimately distort everything else. To our misery. Nothing good will come of it. May GOD have mercy on us.